People Skills
This is a list of some of the most damaging words and phrases you can speak. These phrases appear to say one thing while they in fact reveal the emotions, feeling and prejudices of the speaker. Eliminate them from your own vocabulary because they detract from your credibility.
| What is said | What is heard |
| Kind of …
Sort of thing … |
You’re not confident or don’t know what you’re talking about |
| You know what I mean | You’re unsure of what you’re saying |
| The Wife/ Husband / partner | Depersonalization of your partner |
| Truthfully
Frankly Honestly Sincerely Believe me |
People who are about to be dishonest, insincere, exaggerate or tell a lie often begin sentences with these words |
| Of course | You’re trying to force agreement |
| Should / Ought | You’re trying to force agreement through guilt or a sense of duty |
| Don’t get me wrong | You’re about to say something negative or critical |
| In my humble opinion | You’re about to make an egotistical statement |
| I don’t want to be … | That’s what you really want to be;
e.g ‘ I don’t want to be nude’ is followed by a rude statement |
| I’ll try | I don’t expect to succeed |
| I’ll do my best | My best isn’t good enough |
| With respect | I have no respect for you |
Be aware of these powerless words and phrases and make a point of eliminating them from your vocabulary
So, what words to use ?
Kindly refer to : The 12 Most Powerful Words You Can Use
Source:Brian Tracy
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